I Know Why I Get Angry and Defensive—So Why Can’t I Stop?

In this episode, we look at the painful moment so many of us know too well: when you understand why you get angry, defensive, or shut down—and yet, you still do it. We examine this problem through the lens of one man’s story about a frustrating moment that spirals into rage and self-loathing. But understanding this isn’t the most important thing. We tackle the real question: what actually helps when knowing yourself isn’t enough? If you’ve ever found yourself caught in a loop—knowing better, but still hurting yourself or someone else—this episode will meet you there. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.   Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open space where we explore psychoanalytic ideas together, answer your questions, and connect theory to real life experiences. Reserve your spot here   Next Meeting: Stay Tuned!   Contact me Directly with observations, questions or comments:   thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com  You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:  https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/  https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder  https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder   Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.