Why Do I Self-Sabotage? How to Break Free | Epi 106

Warning- this is a deep dive into unconscious processes   Why do you keep repeating the same destructive patterns, even when you finally have something good—a loving partner, a promotion at work, or even just care and attention? In this episode, we explore the hidden forces that make receiving goodness feel threatening, from envy and shame to the fear of humiliation. Using real-life examples, we uncover why people unconsciously push away what they long for and how small moments of care can trigger destructive reactions. If you’ve ever wondered why you self-sabotage, this episode will show you what’s really going on beneath the surface. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.   Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open space where we explore psychoanalytic ideas together, answer your questions, and connect theory to real life experiences. Reserve your spot here   Next Meeting: Stay Tuned!   Contact me Directly with observations, questions or comments:   thenarcissismdecoder@gmail.com  You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:  https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/  https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder  https://www.youtube.com/@thenarcissismdecoder   Dr. Mazzella’s personal website: drmazzella.com Dr. Anthony Mazzella is a psychoanalyst and psychodynamic psychotherapist specializing in narcissism, personality disorders, and relational dynamics.